I do not feel the need to add links to any of these posts because this is not a rebuttal but rather just my point of view and my observations to ADD to the insight. These other articles caused me to think, which I have mentioned before is a very dangerous past time for me. But none the less I was forced to take notice of what was going on around me. In my opinion it is a damn good article of it resonates like that.
It is a natural flaw we possess in communication that causes us to generalize, and it should be made clear that not ALL Westerners living or working here are out to score some underage puntang and/or marry some PYT (pretty young thing) that will serve and satisfy his every need. Just as not ALL guys named Bismillah are out to topple democracy and the US government, just this one might be.
Western businessmen traveling to Indonesia have been accused of being fat dirty old men just looking for a kinky fuck. The girls who sleep with them have been pitied for having to having to copulate with the brutes. Well, if you take a look at ‘Tiga Puluh’, ‘BATS’, or ‘CJ’s’, where the bulk of foreign business men pick-up after hours, you will see the joint teaming with scantily dressed young women draped around these ‘bules’ (white dudes) with big smiles plastered on their faces. They also get totally drunk and have an awesome time. They are not forced to hang out in these bars or with those men but they choose to do it. Paid for or not (many of these girls are not after cash but rather commitment), this is consensual flirting, drinking, and sex. It is a 2 way street and there are no victims in this game.
As for foreigners being married to Indonesian women here, every guy I know that is, is totally whipped by his wife. When we are out at a bar drinking the wives will usually hang back and let her husband be the man, but if we are out to dinner or spending a day out, this chick will not hesitate to set things straight when he talks shit. That is a normal relationship if you ask me. These guys do a lot more work and pay tons more attention to their wives than any Indonesian man I have seen. In fact the interracial marriages I have seen here tend to be more balanced than the Indo-Indo ones where the men are generally in control. Who could blame an Indonesian girl for wanting to marry a man that will respect her and treat her as an equal? Plus their kids have a better chance of being a model or actor!! And even if the man is less attractive but very wealthy, so what? There are numerous examples all over the world where women marry for financial security, not to mention in the society I live in. If I had a dollar for every time I saw a hot chick with an ugly looking rich dude, I would have a hot chick in my arm too. Donald Trump?
What is it that attracts the men to the Asian women? Are the Indonesian dames less pushy than the women back home? Maybe so and maybe that is what some of these guys are looking for but factors like that are really on an individual basis. It is possible that most Asian women are not career driven and prefer to devote time to their husband and children. So what the fuck is wrong with wanting that? If that is what you like then why the hell should you not seek it? Personally I like independent chicks with goals and dreams but that is my personal attraction. Seeking a tender woman to suit your needs would only be as wrong as a man with preference for blondes seeking one to fill his. And I will also add that not all Indo girls are pushovers. Some people tend to think that all Asian women are weak and submissive. That is SO not the case. Women are women and some of these Indo girls could open a verbal can of whoop ass on any over educated white girl I ever met. Let’s not even get into the Indian ones!!!
And why is all this negative attention paid to white men in the Far East? Sex is available for sale here just as it is in Vegas, London, Paris, New York, Johannesburg, and practically every where else in the world! Why not criticize the Asian men who travel overseas to indulge in their debauchery? Those fellows are just as twisted if not more. Even over here, it is the local men who indulge in the really twisted fantasies out in China town. There is stuff going on there that I do not even want to think about. And there is very little that would ever make me cringe.
Men are also men and this is not a problem associated with only white men or Asian men but most men in general. We are weak minded and when the flow of blood to our brains is even slightly reduced we are no longer in full control of our actions. Some men give in to temptation and others hold fast. Seriously though, there are numerous men that would NEVER infringe upon their moral beliefs. Seriously…
As for infidelity, there is no excuse. Personally I have never nor would I ever cheat on a person I am in a relationship with. But some men do. That is also not a problem associated with any single race of man but rather men in general, and women too. There are numerous male escort services in Jakarta and Bali that cater to women. These women are usually still married looking for a romp in the sack with a young smooth Indonesian lad that could surely out perform their out of shape husbands at home. So this is not just a problem with white men but rather a problem with the human psyche as a whole.
As human beings we NEED to seek love, attention, comfort, and sexual gratification. They are basic human needs just as food, water, and shelter are. Without this contact we loose a bit of what it is that makes us human. You should be lucky enough to stumble upon someone in this short life that can fill that void for you and if you can’t then you have to take the next best thing that comes your way. If the only way you can feel complete is by paying a man or woman to hold you and want you, as long as it is consensual, then so be it. Judging white men for marrying an Asian woman is just as ridiculous as condemning a black for marrying a white or an Indian for marrying Japanese. Individuals are perverted, not entire races. If they were then all Arabs would be terrorists and all Africans drug dealers and thieves.
There are a few white guys living in Indonesia that I know of who read this blog and they are married to Indonesian women. It would be very unfair for them to ever have to justify or feel ashamed for living the life they choose to. The generalizations they sometimes face are down right racist. But there will always be ignorant people all over the world that will continue allowing their beliefs to be dictated by simplification. In some cases I might be one of them too. Live and learn I guess.