Tuesday, August 02, 2005

The Keys to What?

I took this quiz that I saw on Spanky’s Blog this morning. All the results below came from a list of questions I answered about animals so I found that pretty trippy. I guess the reading is pretty accurate but like horoscopes, aren’t they always vaguely accurate? Try it out for yourselves. Although I will admit this is only one side of me. I am pretty sure I can be a selfish and manipulative bastard too. So don’t be fooled ladies. Uh, there are probably only 2 chicks who read this blog anyways.

The Keys to Your Heart
You are attracted to those who are unbridled, untrammeled, and free.
In love, you feel the most alive when your lover is creative and never lets you feel bored.
You'd like to your lover to think you are loyal and faithful... that you'll never change.
You would be forced to break up with someone who was ruthless, cold-blooded, and sarcastic.
Your ideal relationship is lasting. You want a relationship that looks to the future... one you can grow with.
Your risk of cheating is zero. You care about society and morality. You would never break a commitment.
You think of marriage as something precious. You'll treasure marriage and treat it as sacred.
In this moment, you think of love as commitment. Love only works when both people are totally devoted.

But seriously, what is the point of marriage anyways? The most meaningful marriage ceremony I ever saw on film would probably be Mickey and Mallory Knox in Natural Born Killers. That shit was deep. They stood on top of a bridge and joined their cut and bleeding hands together, letting the combined blood drip into the river below so they could be a part of everything. That’s when Oliver Stone threw in a little bit of animation. That was probably the only scene that made me want to get married. Well that and the scene from City of Angels where Meg Ryan dies on the way home from the store. That scene makes me weak dude. I start crying like a little girl with a scraped knee.

Apart from that I just don’t vibe with marriage. I was watching Mr. and Mrs. Smith last night so I guess that is what has got me thinking. There was a shot where they were both in bed, going to sleep, Jolie is not done reading so her bedside lamp is on and Brad wants to crash so he is asking her to turn it off. This is a normal scene from many movies but maybe because it was this extremely hot couple, it just got me thinking about how horrible it would be to share my bed with this woman for the rest of my living life. It would be her bed and her room as much as it would be mine. You may call this selfish but this is honestly how I feel. It is not the sexual commitment factor either. I am not fixated on having multiple partners but it is just the space and individuality factor. Hell, some days I get sick of being around my self. What about my wife? Even with family you get to retreat to your own bedroom at night.

What about the possibility of personal bedrooms? Like she has her room and I have mine. I can do my room up with all dark colors, minimalist cold furniture and high tech electronics, and she can do the whole flowery French country house thing. Or vice versa even. I like a Goth chick. Each person could fill their rooms with their personal belongings and mementos. We would not have to sleep in our own rooms but we can bounce between the 2 together and enjoy each others personal space and personality. I think that would be pretty cool and honestly, what’s wrong if some night you just want to crash on your own? We all know the pleasure of sleeping spread eagle on your bed. This is sounding pretty sexy too. It’s like having themed rooms to role play in as well. You know what I’m sayin fella’s.

Weddings are fun for the whole family but to believe they are binding is a little ignorant. We all know how many divorces go on and how many marriages fall apart so there is nothing I can hold sacred about the ceremony itself. I love history and culture but this is one ritual I would not be sad to see extinct. I love the Sangeet party though. We should just hold on to that. It is great to celebrate a union with friends and family but why all the drama before 2 people can actually devote themselves to one another. These rituals came into being many years ago when the human race was less civilized and women had no rights. Men were impregnating women all over the place and system had to take control. So now some of us have evolved and maybe it is time for us to get rid of the “old ways”.

So needless to say, I will not be doing anything crazy any time soon. To those of you who are, good luck to you and do not forget to invite me to your wedding.

1 comment:

AmitD said...

I like this post dude... sorry i posted so late. Just saw your august posts now. Was stuck on your july posts.